Bluetooth never asks for paskey and then won't pair to headset

Greetings everyone.  This is my first post.  I recently bought the motorola s705 stereo bluetooth headset, chanrged it and tried to connect it to the behold.  The device shows up as being found when I enable and search for bluetooth devices, but when I try to connect, it connects briefly, then disconnects.  It never asks me for a passcode.

I could be wrong, but it seems like it IS connecting, then somehow disconnecting.  The device seems to want to work, but then my behold says "connection failed".  I've seen posts on here where there is supposed to be a passcode you enter  (0000 or 1234...) but my phone never asks for a code of any kind, so Im wondering if I somehow set it up wrong?  I've tried all the options I can see in the bluetooth settings,  all possible combinations, but still the same connection failed issue.

Any ideas?   I love this phone, but if I can't get bluetooth to work, it really is a dealbreaker for me.

Your response is greatly appreciated.